Would you believe if I tell you in the 21st century there are some “LOVE” that dare to speak their name? Would you truly believe if I tell you in this era of Facebook, Twitter and WhatsApp some people can not be open about their relationship?
Yes, it is true. In this 21st century, every day we are talking about freedom, we are delivering speeches about people’s right and we make promises to build a world of equality. Is it really happening in practice? Are we free indeed? In many parts of the world people of the LGBT community still cannot express themselves without any fear. They are bound to hide their sexual orientation and they cannon be in an open relationship with the person of their own choice. Because LGBT persons suffer from social unacceptability, legal criminalization, and fear of being killed. In that archetypal society LGBT community is nothing but a piece of hatred.
As a piece of evidence to prove the above-mentioned statement, the story of today’s guest Mr. Faysal Hossain Onik (a married homosexual person, Blogger and LGBT rights activist) is enough.
Let’s listen to his life experiences as a gay man in his own word in brief:
Childhood: soon after the realisation of my sexuality I came to know that religions and society consider homosexuality as a disease. It is a curse. It is accepted in no way.
I was alienated. I did not know why no one wanted to befriend me. I used to be bullied and mocked. I used to spend most of the time in quest of finding the answer to a question. Why do people call me “Half Ladies”? Since my realisation I have been hiding myself.
Family: No acceptance from family either. They always expected me to change myself. I was a matter of insult for them. My own sister named me a black sheep in the family. I knew they always wanted that I myself go away from their life, although they did not tell me directly.
Relation: I could never be open about my relationship with Saiful who my husband is now. It was impossible in Bangladesh to express our love for each other openly. I also learned that section 377 of the penal code of Bangladesh is against our relationship. It means that our relationship is illegal in Bangladesh.
Current Circumstances: I am an open married gay man now. I and my husband I are targeted by Islamic extremists. we have no way to go back to Bangladesh as our lives are at stake there. Although we are now in a country that is tolerant to a homosexual couple, it is difficult to be accepted as an immigrant. We are still facing a harsh reality. We do not see any country for a gay men.
That was Faysal’s story. A story which denotes that this massive world, shamefully, still failing to provide acceptance, space, and country for a gay man.